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Eight Summers Outside Grandma’s Beach House, Then I Built My Own-hamyt

The first time Isla asked why Grandma’s beach house had no bed for her, she was six years old and still young enough to believe adults told the truth.

She was sitting cross-legged on my kitchen floor in a pink swimsuit, waiting for me to drive her and Rowan to the community pool.

On my phone, Genevieve had just posted a picture of her four children on my mother’s deck in North Carolina, all of them holding popsicles with the ocean behind them.

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“Mommy,” Isla asked, “why do our cousins get to go and we do not?”

I looked at Rowan first.

He was nine, old enough to pretend he was not listening.

That made it worse.

I said what I had said every summer.

“Grandma’s house is crowded, sweetheart.”

It was not a lie, exactly.

It was just the smallest piece of the truth, shaved down until it could fit in a child’s hand without cutting her.

My mother, Beatrice, owned a charming four-bedroom beach cottage with three bathrooms, a wide deck, and enough space for coolers, toys, beach bags, and every comfort Genevieve’s family wanted.

Somehow, it never had space for me.

Somehow, it never had space for my children.

Every March, my mother called with the same voice.

Soft.

Regretful.

Practiced.

“Allara, honey, I am so sorry, but there just is not enough room this year.”

Then she would explain that Genevieve and Simon had four children, that the cousins needed space, that maybe next summer would be different.

Next summer was never different.

Genevieve was the golden daughter, and everyone in our family knew it.

She married Simon right after college, had four children in six years, and stepped into the kind of life my mother understood.

I was the divorced daughter in yoga pants, raising two children and building a design business from a desk in my bedroom.

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